Hello and happy Spring!
With the weather improving and spring break around the corner, we wanted to focus this month’s Counselors’ Corner on the importance of play.
“Playfulness can be just the thing to shift out of conflict, pushback, and disconnection—creating instead an environment where your child can let go of their own fears and frustrations and step into more playful motivation to work with you.”
-The Way of Play, Dr. Tina Payne Bryson & Georgie Vincent
Play is more than an opportunity to have fun and bond together; it actually fosters better behavior. When children are in a regulated state, they are far more likely to engage in positive, prosocial behaviors (you know the ones you are desperately trying to teach them!), including following instructions, managing impulses, and navigating conflicts. Play activates the social engagement part of the nervous system (aka ventral vagal state), which is all about social connection. When children are playing, their brains are open to learning and relating to others in a positive way. Behavior challenges often stem from dysregulation, anxiety, or a lack of connection. Play addresses all of these by helping children feel safe, connected, and emotionally regulated.
As a further benefit, engaging with your child in playful ways activates the same cues of safety for your nervous system as it does for theirs. When you are in a regulated state, it is easier to be present and available for connecting with your child. This primes their brain to receive your guidance. This is co-regulation at its core: one person helping another manage their emotions and behaviors through support, modeling, and coaching.
Go play!
Adapted from The Regulated Classroom, Emily Read Daniels
As always, please reach out at any time with any questions or concerns you may have.
Catherine Nein - School Counselor, catherine_nein@yarmouthschools.org
Chelsea Collupy - Social Worker, chelsea_collupy@yarmouthschools.org
Sam Durham - Social Worker, samantha_durham@yarmouthschools.org
We can also be reached by calling the main office phone 207-846-2499.